How Are You Coping With Your Breakup?
Evaluate your emotional resilience and discover how you're processing your breakup. Answer 17 questions to reveal your recovery stage. Takes 3 minutes!
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About This Test
What It Measures
This test measures post-relationship grief intensity across four dimensions: emotional numbing (shock, disbelief, detachment), intrusive thoughts (obsessive rumination about your ex), avoidance behaviors (dodging reminders and triggers), and identity disruption (loss of sense of self post-breakup). Based on attachment theory and grief research, it evaluates whether you're experiencing normal relationship mourning or complicated grief that may benefit from therapeutic intervention. The focus is on distress severity, not time since breakup.
How It Works
You'll respond to 17 statements about shock and numbness, emotional pain intensity, avoidance of reminders, bitterness and resentment, intrusive thoughts about your ex, loneliness, difficulty accepting the ending, and identity confusion. Your score reveals your grief stage—from healed (processed the loss and moved forward) to shattered (severe distress requiring professional support). The test helps normalize the breakup recovery process while identifying when distress crosses into dysfunction.
When to Use This Test
Take this test if you're questioning whether your grief is normal, struggling to function weeks or months post-breakup, avoiding places that remind you of your ex, experiencing identity crisis without the relationship, feeling unable to accept the ending, or comparing your recovery to others. Note: breakup grief varies widely based on attachment style, relationship length, who initiated the split, and your support system. Very low scores immediately post-breakup might indicate emotional suppression rather than genuine healing.