How Authentic Are You In Relationships?
Discover if you're being your true self in relationships or hiding behind people-pleasing. Answer 9 questions to reveal your authenticity score. Takes 2 minutes!
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About This Test
What It Measures
This test measures relationship authenticity - the degree to which you express your true thoughts, feelings, and needs in relationships versus self-silencing and people-pleasing. It evaluates opinion suppression, prioritizing others' preferences over your own, filtering yourself to avoid judgment, and difficulty balancing self-expression with social harmony. This is the opposite of chronic people-pleasing.
How It Works
You'll respond to 9 statements about self-expression in relationships - whether you hold back opinions, prioritize others' needs, filter yourself to avoid conflict, and struggle to know when to compromise versus stand firm. Your score places you on a spectrum from chronic people-pleaser (severe self-silencing) to unapologetically real (full authentic expression). All questions are reverse-scored.
When to Use This Test
Take this test if you feel invisible in relationships, if you've been told you're 'too nice', if you don't know who you are anymore, if you resent people you never said no to, if you're recovering from codependency, or if you're building assertiveness skills. Low scores indicate severe people-pleasing which leads to burnout and relationships where people don't know the real you.